self-esteem therapy
“Hello, Awesome-Person-who-doesn’t-always-feel-that-great. I’m so glad you’re here.”
If you have moments, perhaps a lot of moments, when you don’t like yourself, you’ve found the right place. Despite knowing you have a lot going for you, you still secretly dislike yourself. And you can't seem to stop judging yourself. Maybe you feel great about yourself a lot of the time and don’t know why you have these tough moments/days/weeks/months. Maybe you feel like you never get any relief from the pain of feeling like you’re kinda messed up.
What if all that self-criticism was a story you are telling yourself that isn’t even true?
Does Self-Doubt Hold You Back?
DOES SELF-DOUBT KEEP YOU FROM TAKING CHANCES WITH PEOPLE?
“What if they judge me if I open up?” “What if they don’t like the real me?” “I can’t show them my weaknesses.” “I couldn’t stand it if their image of me changed so I’ll just have to hide this side of me.”
DOES SELF-CRITICISM GET IN THE WAY OF YOU PURSING YOUR PERSONAL GOALS?
“I’m not good enough.” “I don’t deserve it.” “I’m not doing enough.” “Why do I keep messing up?”
HAS SELF-DOUBT GOT IN THE WAY OF YOUR CAREER, YOUR JOB CHOICES OF YOUR PURSUIT OF HOBBIES?
“I’m not capable.” “They will never pick me.” “Someone else is more deserving.”
DOES SELF-DOUBT MAKE YOU QUESTION YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND YOUR ROLES?
“What kind of Mother am I?” “I’m a terrible provider.” “I’m the Black Sheep.”
Rewrite the story of yourself
I want to help you to question this story. Maybe there are parts of it that are true. We can deal with those parts. But what if you are taking an all or nothing approach and are missing the nuance? Could your story be more complicated-in a good way?
For the last 15 years, I’ve been dedicated to helping people see themselves more fairly. I help people to stop evaluating themselves by how they fail to measure up. We question unnecessary assumptions and free them of years of painful baggage.
The Amazing Thing is, often people start to see change very quickly and you don’t even have to believe you are all that great to get started.
You just need tiny bit of doubt that you’re awful or be open to the possibility that maybe, possibly, you could be somewhat OK.
I bet you’ve been feeling bad for a while, let’s stop that cycle and reverse it. Once you believe that you could be OK, incredible things can happen.
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Coming to terms with the past
Changing what you don’t like about yourself or finding a way to accept what you don’t like
Learning who you are independent of the roles you play (hint! You aren’t just a student, mother, or engineer.)
Being OK with not knowing everything about who you are or who you’ll be in the future
Embracing what makes you unique
Embracing what makes you average
Finding out more about your values
Incorporating new information about yourself into your story about who you are
Realizing you deserve to be treated better, to ask for more, to say no to mistreatment
Learning about your strengths
Dealing with life changes
Focusing less on what you look like and more on what’s important to you
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Telling others how you really feel/Standing up for yourself when you want to
Freeing yourself from playing the role everyone expects of you
Deepening relationships
Shifting from a kid-parent relationship dynamic to an adult child-parent relationship
Learning to be OK with your choices, opinions, and beliefs even when people that are important to you disagree
Meeting new people/Making room for new relationships/Becoming more social
Asking for help/Accepting help
Setting firmer boundaries/Letting people in more
Realizing you deserve to be treated better, to ask for more, to say no to mistreatment
Becoming more open/Becoming more cautious about sharing
Becoming less aggressive
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Trying out something you never have tried before and might not know how to do
Starting a new job
Asking for a promotion
Switching to a more fulfilling career path
Setting boundaries at work so you don’t have to leave a job that you love
Navigating life transitions
Moving somewhere new
Realizing you deserve to be treated better, to ask for more, to say no to mistreatment
Don’t just imagine it. Make it happen. Ready to Question That Old Story?